So you have come out of the closet but you're finding it hard to get in the dating game. Seriously, going on a first date can be a bit of a challenge, especially for lesbians who have been off the market for some time or for those who are new to the lesbian dating scene.
Most people are terrible at dating and online dating doesn't make it much easier. It is perfectly normal for you to be nervous about approaching another woman, or for you to worry about the protocols of asking a woman out. If you feel you're at a stage where you are ready to put yourself out there, here are a few tips to make things much easier.
Get out and meet other gay people with the intention of getting to know them. Push the thought of finding "the one" from your mind and just date. Take the time to learn about who you're with and avoid getting too emotionally attached too soon. When you do this, you will remove some of the pressure of dating, and who knows, you might find someone for the long-term.
If you are using a gay dating site be honest and open on your online profile. Being open and honest are two of the most important aspects of online dating, since this is key to finding your potential matches. For example if you are a single mom, don't hide the fact that you have a child. Being a mother should never be a negative aspect to who you are. If your date can't accept you for who you are then you are saving yourself from a lot of heartache and hassle in the long term. So just be honest from the get-go.
Once you have secured a date leave the ex at the door and in the past where they belong. Don't whine or talk about them. Your date certainly does not want to know how good your ex-girlfriend was in bed. Talking about your ex is definitely not a turn on and it may prevent you from finding a new squeeze. No one wants to be a rebound or worse date someone who is hung up on their previous girlfriend. That is too much work and this is the perfect example of you shooting yourself in the foot before even starting.
Take your time and get some insight onto the world you've just entered. Whether you are new or a seasoned dater, gay relationships and relationships in general takes time, so don't dive into anything too fast. Many newly outed lesbians attach themselves to the first nice single lesbian they meet and dive into a relationship. This can turn out to be a big mistake and you should remember that for your gay romance to last you should have more in common with your new girlfriend other than the fact that you are both gay singles.
The best advice we can give you is to be smart, let go of your attachment to the outcome and have fun. Put your best self forward, enjoy the whole dating process and use your Woman's Intuition" while you're at it. You cannot control the outcome of the experience, just remember, if someone seems too good to be true, they probably are. Listen to those warning and your gut feeling. There are also gay people who are using dating sites just for sex, so be careful. If you do end up in bed, stay in the moment and always be safe.