Have you ever seen a gay couple together and think, "what does he/she sees in him/her?" Or "what's his secret?" Is it the money, personality, status or the charm? Or maybe it's that spark... you know, the chemistry, the blend of intellectual engagement and sexual tension. This question is asked frequently by many gay singles, when they see couples with one very attractive partner and an ordinary looking one. What most observers can't see, and you can thank us later, is just how bold the ordinary partner really is.
The thing is most lesbian and gay singles leave their romantic lives up to fate. Often waiting patiently to be approached by someone instead of being brave enough to approach the men or women they want. If you are tired of going home lonely, let us save you some time, energy and heartache. You need to stop playing games, get rid of that rule book that is not getting you anywhere, take control of your life and make some really bold moves. Yes, don't be paralysed by the opinions or expectations of others.
While being rejected is always a risk, when you get it right, bold moves pay off big time. A man or woman who is confident and acts boldly will find a partner. End of story. It does not matter if they are self-absorbed, goofy or boring, most gay people love confidence and some prospective dates will respond well to your strength, persistence and willingness to put yourself on the line to get to know them. Potential mates will also admire your display of self-assertion, willingness to act, and your fearlessness.
Another bold move you can make is to go to the cafe, bar or nightclub alone. The thing is, you have a much better chance of meeting other gay people when you are alone. When you go out with friends you will stick to your circle and hang out with them instead of looking out for openings or seizing the opportunities to talk with other women or guys. Even if you see other cute gay singles, you will return to your comfort zone and continue to chat with your circle.
We're all capable of getting any man or woman we want. With any situation, especially with dating, confidence is the key to success. Now, we are not saying you should be rude or overconfident, but you should not be laid back, shy or nervous either.
So the next time you see the man or woman who seems like the one you have been waiting for your whole life, embrace the moment, throw those fears aside and take the shot. You won't regret it. Either you will hit it off, or you won't. But one thing is sure, you will leave knowing that you took your happiness and the chance of finding the perfect gay romance into your own hands. Think it, believe it then sell it. Who knows where you will find yourself and with whom?